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Many of us have a habit of assessing others. Many people judge others on what they do, how they speak, their sense of style, their value system, their looks, their point of views, etc. People who continuously assess or judge others typically have an abundance of their self-doubt. This bad habit spreads negativity within ourselves and those around us.

Therefore, it is important for us to work on improving ourselves, and not to assess others. Do we notice if what we are doing is right or wrong? Are we negatively affecting others around us? Focusing on making ourselves better is important. However, many of us automatically point fingers at others’ behavior before we take responsibility for ourselves.

What is self-assessment?

Self-assessment is the act of analyzing one’s self in order to make one’s self better. One of the most harmful things that we can do to ourselves and those around us to remain ignorant of ourselves. Make yourself have the courage and respect to look at yourself honestly and gently because we do not apply the formula of self-assessment. Rather than analyzing the negative traits about those around us, we can acknowledge that the people around us are doing the best that they can, and we cannot change them. We can only change ourselves.

Why is assessing yourself important?

Self-assessment is difficult for many people because you have to look at yourself. However, the only way to improve oneself is to figure out what needs to be improved. You should search for the person that you aspire to be. We cannot hide the truth of ourselves from our soul. We surely never can because we own ourselves. Even when we do not want to, we are always assessing ourselves. However, it is better to be cognizant of when we are analyzing yourself because that way we do not tell ourselves false beliefs without realizing it. In order to do this, you have to leave your comfort zone and look inside your won mind. You will discover peace, serenity, and yourself.

As Rainer Maria Rilke said: “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will find them gradually, without noticing it, and live along some distant day into the answer.”

Every time that you have a thought that you would like to change, write it down so that you become aware of the thought. Then write down what you would like to think instead. For example, if you think about something negative about someone else, write down the idea, and then write down what you should be thinking about instead. Another idea is to write down what you should change about yourself instead of thinking about what should be changed about someone else.



Brian Spiegel

1309 Belcher Dr

Tarpon Springs, FL 34689


Tel: 727-742-9938


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